Just kidding. I feel like everyone’s just making it all up as they go along. No one really knows what they’re doing. We’re all out here just hoping for the best.
In case you didn’t know, I get married NEXT FREAKING MONTH. You guys. How is that even possible?!?! My fiance Ross and I got engaged in June of 2018 (and then he moved to Australia but more on that later) and somehow, I blinked and a year and a half have gone by. I’d like to say I’m ready. I’m definitely mentally ready. But the prep work kicks into overdrive right about now and y’all, I am NOT okay.
Today, I’m bringing you a few pieces of advice I’ve picked up over the last year and a half. We didn’t hire a wedding planner, so I’ve done the bulk of it by myself. There are things that were absolutely worth my time, and others that were a complete waste. It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s been fun. Let’s get started.
- Do what you want. Seriously. It’s your day, and people will try to interject their opinions into your vision. If those opinions don’t fit with what you’re trying to create, then don’t put them into action. It’s okay to say no, even if it’s to your mom, your maid of honor, or your vendor. Of course, you should listen because sometimes, even if the opinion is WAY off base, there is a lil spark of an idea in there that you can run with. But make the day what you and your fiance are wanting it to be and ignore the rest.
- Once you find something you like, STOP LOOKING. One day, I’ll share the story of how I ended up with 5 wedding dresses. Today is not that day, but the advice I can give is once you find the one (dress, vendor, florist, future husband…) STOP the search. You WILL drive yourself crazy. It will NOT be fun.
- TIME. LINE. This is not the piece of the pie I thought I would be stressed out over, but here we are. Be thinking about how you want the day to go. When to get ready, when to have breakfast and lunch brought in, when to do pictures, and then how you want the ceremony and reception to go. Many vendors have templates for all of these things, but they take a little tweaking. For us, we’re not doing a first look. Because of this, we’ve had to readjust what the day will look like to fit in pictures after the ceremony, make sure there’s food and drink waiting for the guests at the reception, etc.
- Drink water and get a good skin care routine early. You want to look your best, and skin doesn’t change overnight. Talk to a local esthetician and find some products that work for you. Give yourself time to adjust your routine, because if you’re like me, your skin is a mean little b**** and takes time to adjust to new products. Water has done wonders for clearing my skin up and giving me a little glow. Plus, your body will thank you.
- Have fun. In the blink of an eye, it’s over, so don’t take it for granted. Even if you’re stressed out, binge eating pizza, and ignoring responsibilities, you (hopefully) only get to do this once so savor the experience. Journal, write things down, and just enjoy your last few months solo.
I’d love to connect with any soon-to-be brides on the details of how we made this work. I’ve learned a lot that I didn’t read on WeddingWire or The Knot. Congrats and remember to stay calm, it’ll all be okay in the end (I say that like I don’t still have a month to go).
Until next time,